What is a relationship ? Deeeep.
One day, during the festive season, you go out to orchard road to shop, take a walk and look at the beautiful festivities going on around town. As you walk alone, you notice many youngins ' or rather teenagers with another of their partner, holding hands, laughing and smiling at each other. Some of them might even brush across your shoulders without a single word of apology, as they are trapped in their own world of jolly.
Later on, at takashimaya at the toys department, you see a boy, assuming from his height and looks, probably just graduated from primary school, looking at the trendiest stuff in town. He picks up a burby doll and tried to find the price tag. "Crap, too expensive." And he puts it down.
The boy is later approached by a girl, "Hey dear, lets go." She tugs his elbow with her hand and her fist swiftly sweeps nicely into the boy's palm. As they disappear into the distance, you notice how short they are, and the looks of others around them staring at those two, their guesses as good as yours.
That might probably a common sight nowadays. Oh gee. Society.
You then ask yourself, what the heck is going on with those two, what is their relationship ?
Friends or, BGR ? Oh my.
Those two kids probably are just playing around, spending time as if time would wait for them forever. Enjoying life, together with someone you really care for after you know them for so many years, or someone you just met last night at the costume party somewhere at geylang. Is this a part of a relationship no matter what forms it gets ?
You know someone, you get to know them better through time, you develop feelings for them, and things happen. You can be a 39 unmarried teacher, going on a 17 year old PhD student from some prestigious college in America. Or a devoted catholic single mum developing taboo and forbidden feelings for the holy Pope in Rome. This sudden burst of strong uncontrolled feelings brings about a chain of fortunate events or if things take a wrong turn, disaster.
It is humans instinct and nature to reproduce. Yes, you heard me, reproduction. Many things are happening in the human body from young to death. We got puberty, the metamorphosis of good cells into the bad cancer cells we know about, and aging which sucks with age. Sometimes, people think they get into a relationship, they think its love. However in the biological context and approach, what in the farmer's name is love ?
"Attraction starts with a chemical reaction caused by the release of pheromones and the activation of the nose's active sites to it, thus the body then fools itself into justifying this attraction by giving all sorts of reasons, like love." - a reliable source.
Sad but true. Reality is indeed cruel to us.
Back to relationships. If i may, i would say a start of a relationship is the is caused by attraction, as stated above. Every body's definition of a relationship is different. Its true really. Let me give you an example. At age 10 and below(rough estimation thank you), you see your mommy and daddy kiss, get intimate, but then you do not know words and meanings like intimate and stuff. However, you do know they are living together and are in love, a relationship.
As you grow, now and then mommy gets the neighbour to babysit you while your parents go out for a hot date after work. The babysitter leaves you in front of the TV with the dastardly remote while he or she goes read some paparazzi magazine. Then, slowly and surely, the TV corrupts your young little mind, as if part of a grand global plan to take over the world, it infuses you with needless information from soap operas and from the 7pm prime time dramas. Such information, includes the script writer's perspective of love and these ideas became apparent truths and corrupts your interpretation of love. Smooching, kissing, hugging. Its all on TV. Ah, the remote. The wonders and pitfalls of technology.
Still reading ? Good. Apologies to my group members.
You grow older, you can tell who is handsome, cute, pretty, attractive. You go to school, you meet new people and friends. On Sundays, you go to church, same thing happens, interaction with society. Here again, during your teens, your perspective and understanding of a relationship changes again. You learn what is intimacy. The boiling youth blood fuels your brain, making it tick. During then, you may think, getting into a relationship is being and getting intimate with the opposite gender. To *cough* experience new stuff and explore the unknown. Sometimes, you tell yourself, i need a boy/girlfriend. Oh no.
During adulthood(this i not very sure. i am only a little boy), you start to think clearer of what is going on with your life. Your goals in life and the meaning of life which is obviously not 42 if you did watch hitchhikers guide to the galaxy. You laugh back at your teens and childhood, thinking how immature you were back then. And you thought you would be young forever and here you are toiling your life away trying to gather as much red and blue paper as possible, and maybe pay your insurance. You get stressed up from all the mindless gathering, thinking how in the farmer's name would you be able to retire peacefully, and pocket full. You wanted someone to talk to, you need someone to hug you and tell you, everything is ok. You need to get into a relationship too, a form of commitment and sometimes enjoyment.
Later in life, you see your neighbour's little kids dirtying your wall beside your door thinking it was drawing block. You get fed up, scold the kids, their parents noticing the din rushed out and apologise. They tell you "Ah bringing up kids are really a headache, but its all in a days' life. We are happy we got this kids. They colour our lives." You smile back, trying to convince yourself its OK spending half a day trying to get the crayon stain away. The happy family then, happily goes back into their house and mind their business. You stare at the formless and unrecognisable graffiti on the wall, "Ah, kids, how nice." And reality cruelly hits you in the head, "Crap i am single. I need to get into a relationship."
There are other interpretations to a relationship. It might be a mutual sort of understanding and care for each other. A one night stand when you are down. Or a relationship can be treated as a restricted marriage, where *cough* some stuff you cannot do.
For me, i think we should all think of a relationship as a form of commitment for your partner, in addition in mind, this relationship will ultimately lead to coolest form of commitment on earth, called marriage. During a relationship, these "couples" should try to ask themselves, are we willing to spend the rest of our lives with the one i am seeing right now ? Yes, through a relationship, even though you won't know the answer at first, it will lead you to the answer. This is what i think a relationship and how it should be. It should start off happy, and end happy. And later in the future, die happy and satisfied.
To end this post, i would like to say : Let the hormones roar!
Guys, what's you take on a relationship then ?
Later on, at takashimaya at the toys department, you see a boy, assuming from his height and looks, probably just graduated from primary school, looking at the trendiest stuff in town. He picks up a burby doll and tried to find the price tag. "Crap, too expensive." And he puts it down.
The boy is later approached by a girl, "Hey dear, lets go." She tugs his elbow with her hand and her fist swiftly sweeps nicely into the boy's palm. As they disappear into the distance, you notice how short they are, and the looks of others around them staring at those two, their guesses as good as yours.
That might probably a common sight nowadays. Oh gee. Society.
You then ask yourself, what the heck is going on with those two, what is their relationship ?
Friends or, BGR ? Oh my.
Those two kids probably are just playing around, spending time as if time would wait for them forever. Enjoying life, together with someone you really care for after you know them for so many years, or someone you just met last night at the costume party somewhere at geylang. Is this a part of a relationship no matter what forms it gets ?
You know someone, you get to know them better through time, you develop feelings for them, and things happen. You can be a 39 unmarried teacher, going on a 17 year old PhD student from some prestigious college in America. Or a devoted catholic single mum developing taboo and forbidden feelings for the holy Pope in Rome. This sudden burst of strong uncontrolled feelings brings about a chain of fortunate events or if things take a wrong turn, disaster.
It is humans instinct and nature to reproduce. Yes, you heard me, reproduction. Many things are happening in the human body from young to death. We got puberty, the metamorphosis of good cells into the bad cancer cells we know about, and aging which sucks with age. Sometimes, people think they get into a relationship, they think its love. However in the biological context and approach, what in the farmer's name is love ?
"Attraction starts with a chemical reaction caused by the release of pheromones and the activation of the nose's active sites to it, thus the body then fools itself into justifying this attraction by giving all sorts of reasons, like love." - a reliable source.
Sad but true. Reality is indeed cruel to us.
Back to relationships. If i may, i would say a start of a relationship is the is caused by attraction, as stated above. Every body's definition of a relationship is different. Its true really. Let me give you an example. At age 10 and below(rough estimation thank you), you see your mommy and daddy kiss, get intimate, but then you do not know words and meanings like intimate and stuff. However, you do know they are living together and are in love, a relationship.
As you grow, now and then mommy gets the neighbour to babysit you while your parents go out for a hot date after work. The babysitter leaves you in front of the TV with the dastardly remote while he or she goes read some paparazzi magazine. Then, slowly and surely, the TV corrupts your young little mind, as if part of a grand global plan to take over the world, it infuses you with needless information from soap operas and from the 7pm prime time dramas. Such information, includes the script writer's perspective of love and these ideas became apparent truths and corrupts your interpretation of love. Smooching, kissing, hugging. Its all on TV. Ah, the remote. The wonders and pitfalls of technology.
Still reading ? Good. Apologies to my group members.
You grow older, you can tell who is handsome, cute, pretty, attractive. You go to school, you meet new people and friends. On Sundays, you go to church, same thing happens, interaction with society. Here again, during your teens, your perspective and understanding of a relationship changes again. You learn what is intimacy. The boiling youth blood fuels your brain, making it tick. During then, you may think, getting into a relationship is being and getting intimate with the opposite gender. To *cough* experience new stuff and explore the unknown. Sometimes, you tell yourself, i need a boy/girlfriend. Oh no.
During adulthood(this i not very sure. i am only a little boy), you start to think clearer of what is going on with your life. Your goals in life and the meaning of life which is obviously not 42 if you did watch hitchhikers guide to the galaxy. You laugh back at your teens and childhood, thinking how immature you were back then. And you thought you would be young forever and here you are toiling your life away trying to gather as much red and blue paper as possible, and maybe pay your insurance. You get stressed up from all the mindless gathering, thinking how in the farmer's name would you be able to retire peacefully, and pocket full. You wanted someone to talk to, you need someone to hug you and tell you, everything is ok. You need to get into a relationship too, a form of commitment and sometimes enjoyment.
Later in life, you see your neighbour's little kids dirtying your wall beside your door thinking it was drawing block. You get fed up, scold the kids, their parents noticing the din rushed out and apologise. They tell you "Ah bringing up kids are really a headache, but its all in a days' life. We are happy we got this kids. They colour our lives." You smile back, trying to convince yourself its OK spending half a day trying to get the crayon stain away. The happy family then, happily goes back into their house and mind their business. You stare at the formless and unrecognisable graffiti on the wall, "Ah, kids, how nice." And reality cruelly hits you in the head, "Crap i am single. I need to get into a relationship."
There are other interpretations to a relationship. It might be a mutual sort of understanding and care for each other. A one night stand when you are down. Or a relationship can be treated as a restricted marriage, where *cough* some stuff you cannot do.
For me, i think we should all think of a relationship as a form of commitment for your partner, in addition in mind, this relationship will ultimately lead to coolest form of commitment on earth, called marriage. During a relationship, these "couples" should try to ask themselves, are we willing to spend the rest of our lives with the one i am seeing right now ? Yes, through a relationship, even though you won't know the answer at first, it will lead you to the answer. This is what i think a relationship and how it should be. It should start off happy, and end happy. And later in the future, die happy and satisfied.
To end this post, i would like to say : Let the hormones roar!
Guys, what's you take on a relationship then ?
posted by fruitjelly at 9:17 PM
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